I was just sitting here drinking my coffee, casually scrolling through my Facebook friends feed, and pondering destiny, fertility, mortality, and foot massages when all of the sudden a random video post caught my eye and out of nowhere, I see in the little accompanying still photo A PICTURE OF MY VERY OWN HUSBAND — MY ONE TRUE LOVE, from over 20 years ago — and my troubled, troubled heart leapt with joy!
For me, the funny part is that in one of the comments below the video on YouTube, someone wrote, “The guy at 1:44 has no idea he’s speaking to a future idol” — when the truth of the matter is, Gregory ABSOLUTELY KNEW. He knew from the very first time he met him, hung with him, laughed with him, played with him, and eventually recorded him — one song of which would later appear on their boxed set, With the Lights Out. Oh, HE KNEW. He told me that once you met Kurt, there is NO WAY NOT TO HAVE KNOWN.
One of my husband’s greatest gifts in this life is that he has an unerring eye for the extraordinary — and that is because he himself is extraordinary.
Muffy Bolding is a mother/writer/actor/knitter/feminist/withered debutante who likes the smell of asparagus pee, and remains obsessed with the bathroom hygiene of her three children -- despite the fact that they are 23, 19, and 16. She is blissfully married to a cute Jewish boy who looks like Willie Wonka, but remains tragically in love with the dead poet, Ted Hughes. She has the mouth of a Teamster, and her patron saint is Rocco (pestilence relief.) Ms. Bolding lives in Southern California, where she enjoys typing words, making movies, and plucking the rings from the fingers of the dead. She was the co-creator and Editor-in-Chief of the award winning satire zine, Fresno Lampoon, and in between writing screenplays, carnival barking, and savagely threatening her trio of darling larvae with a wooden spoon, she currently publishes the zine, "Withered Debutante." More of her work can also be found in the anthology, "Mamaphonic: Balancing Motherhood and Other Creative Acts", the compilation zine, "Mamaphiles III: Coming Home", as well as in The Cortland Review and hipmama.com. She is currently writing and producing for film and television, and working on a book of essays entitled, "Inside A Chinese Dragon." She has slept around, but not nearly as much as she would have liked.