Since ancient times, when the Japanese mend broken objects, rather than attempting to restore them to their previously unsullied state, they instead aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold. They believe that when something has suffered damage and survives, it becomes even more beautiful and valuable for having been broken in the first place. They enhance and celebrate the history and flaws of a thing because they believe that there in the IMPERFECTION…lies UTTER PERFECTION.
Marvelous people keep asking me about my hopes, dreams, wishes, and goals for 2015, and here, finally is my simple response to their kind queries:
After one of the most difficult, perilous years of my life — a year where, quite honestly, there were moments when I wasn’t sure I was even going to fucking survive — my mantra for 2015 is…Kintsukuroi: “To repair with gold.”
May we celebrate and honor our fractures, cracks, and flaws…and may we ALL be mended with gold.
Happy New Year…and ONWARD!
Muffy Bolding is a mother/writer/actor/knitter/feminist/withered debutante who likes the smell of asparagus pee, and remains obsessed with the bathroom hygiene of her three children -- despite the fact that they are 23, 19, and 16. She is blissfully married to a cute Jewish boy who looks like Willie Wonka, but remains tragically in love with the dead poet, Ted Hughes. She has the mouth of a Teamster, and her patron saint is Rocco (pestilence relief.) Ms. Bolding lives in Southern California, where she enjoys typing words, making movies, and plucking the rings from the fingers of the dead. She was the co-creator and Editor-in-Chief of the award winning satire zine, Fresno Lampoon, and in between writing screenplays, carnival barking, and savagely threatening her trio of darling larvae with a wooden spoon, she currently publishes the zine, "Withered Debutante." More of her work can also be found in the anthology, "Mamaphonic: Balancing Motherhood and Other Creative Acts", the compilation zine, "Mamaphiles III: Coming Home", as well as in The Cortland Review and hipmama.com. She is currently writing and producing for film and television, and working on a book of essays entitled, "Inside A Chinese Dragon." She has slept around, but not nearly as much as she would have liked.
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I really like that concept. 2014 was the roughest here too. But 2015 will be our year and mended with gold if need be.